Gay sex first time advice
Are you planning on existence a bottom for the first time but worried about being getting fucked? From douching to diet, these 11 butt-bangin' tips from Alex Hopkins will business you how to organize for anal sex. Lube at the ready!
Anal sex is a rite of passage for gay men. But getting your precious passage primed if you're a first-time bottom can be anxiety-inducing. Not least of all because many of us are still not taught about anal sex in school.
Consequently, we often hold to learn about how to have anal sex and bottoming in roundabout ways. Through what we hear. Or porn. And, many times, on the job itself.
First time bottom: the rookie mistakes
Impassioned but ill-prepared, when it comes to first-time bottoming, newbies naturally make mistakes. If we are feeling mega horny, we may endeavor and take a cock too quickly. With too brief lube. And perhaps too little attention to cleaning our nether regions.
Indeed, bottoming for the first time can be messy. And painful (who doesn’t recall that hideous, jabbing pain?) Sadly, these factors can put us off one of the most exquisite joys of gay life. But needlessly so. For these missteps are easily avoided by preparing for a
Tips for cis men who want to try sex with other cis men – in a safe and respectful way
To begin, I’d enjoy to clarify that this article is not necessarily about questioning your sexuality. Everyone should be able to examine their curiosities in a pleasurable and positive way, and it’s important to understand that you can try fresh things without subscribing to any fixed labels. These tips are for cis men who desire to try sex with other cis men, in a safe and respectful manner.
Note: ‘cisgender men’ or ‘cis men’ refers to men who were assigned male at birth, based on having a penis and other biological characteristics, and identify as men too.Cis is the opposite of trans. We argue trans men morehere, andhere’s some assist and advice about navigating sex and relationshipsfor trans men and trans masculine people.
1. Be sincere from the get-go that you’re curious
Whether you want to hook up with someone you’re already acquainted with (usually a gym bro, according to most porn), or you’ve been involved in a charged emoji swap on Grindr, honesty is fundamental from the beginning. Many queer people are empathetic
The ins and outs of safer, greater sex.
I’m scared of bottoming
Most gay men will consider bottoming at some hour. However, the thought of doing it for the first second can be scary. Don’t allow that put you off.
You may prefer to douche before bottoming, especially if indulging in intense arse play like fisting or with large dicks/toys. Use plain, clean water, preferably at body temperature. Avoid using shower attachments - the water pressure can be dangerous. You can receive douche bulbs online or from any good sex shop. Endeavor not to go overboard and irritate the lining of your arse, as this can craft you more vulnerable to STIs.
Get yourself relaxed with lots of foreplay like rimming or fingering. Some men do use amyl nitrate (poppers) to relax the muscles around their arse but there are two major health warnings. Poppers:
- have been linked with an increased risk of HIV transmission
- don’t mix with erection drugs like Viagra and may result in a heart attack.
Deep breathing is far safer, helps you to relax and relaxes the arse too.
Find a position that suits the size, angle and curvature of your partner’s dick. Any position where your knees are bent and drawn into your chest, w
My(35M) first gay sexual experience is coming up. What should I know?
February 5, 2020 11:10 PM Subscribe
Hello. I am a 35 year old cis dude, and I've been only with women up to now. I've always considered myself enthusiastically hetero.
A year or so ago, I first experienced the pleasure of anal sex (i.e. having my butt being played with, penetrated with a finger etc) with my female partners.
Since then, I have been fantasising strongly about being penetrated by a real penis. I've begun experiencing some attraction towards men, and (for the first time) been aroused by gay porn. I really want to be fucked by a guy!
So long story quick , I've met a kind, gentle homosexual man who knows about this history of mine and is interested in being my match in this adventure. The big daytime is coming up soon. I'm really excited but really nervous! I understand I should endeavor to be spontaneous but I contain so many questions! What are things I should be ke