Older gay men sex
Why are gay men over 50 existence erased by our culture?
About a year ago, after five years function, endless rewrites and table readings, a film-festival award, and input from lgbtq+ friends in the industry, I finally took a intense breath and sent my queer-themed sitcom pilot, “Life After Death,” to agents and producers. I was ready to go to battle with the bigwigs.
The reactions were swift and merciless, one (gay) agent writing me that, although the show was funny, the characters were depraved, the language vile, the sexual references unthinkable for a mainstream, albeit cable TV, audience. Among dozens of offenses listed, he said that no one will watch a foremost man make a joke about bottoming. “Where,” he asked, “are the heroes who show how far the society has progressed?”
The display, about a fifty-year-old gay man struggling to overcome alcoholism, narcissism, and a sex-addicted past, and set against the backdrop of his tumbling L.A. writing career, wasn’t meant to be the next “This Is Us” or even “Looking,” a scarce age-friendly dramedy filled with gay sex scenes. And, for the record, there wasn’t a snippet of nudity in the pilot. It was meant as a humorous, albeit dark, take on
PSY 180 - Psychology of Aging - Textbook
The Data of Life in Aging Gay Men
Older gay men have the same want for physical and heartfelt intimacy as do younger ones. As they age, however, they may be able to step off what one writer described as “the unconscious, unyielding, mechanical treadmill of desire.”
They’re still active sexually. The pattern of sexual task a man had in his youth tends to persist as he ages. In several surveys, as many as three quarters of gay men notify being happy with their sexual life. In some studies over half of these men reported having sex at least once a week with a partner and this is in addition to the masturbating that most men also do.
They know more about what turns them on and are less self-conscious about asking for it. Having more free time, less stressful function lives, and more self-acceptance contribute to an enhanced sense of sexual possibilities.
The highly valued sexual life tends to shift from the drive directly to orgasm to a fuller erotic life. Affection, cuddling and emotional closeness are increasingly important. Instead of a quick orgasm, lgbtq+ men in this age group reach for what one author c
‘Sex over 60’: the sex lives of older gay and multi-attracted men
The sex lives of older gay and bisexual men are often disregarded as dwindling, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Dean Arcuri reports.
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While we all hope to contain a sex life like Blanche from the Golden Girls as we age, the truth is we assume older people are more like Sophia instead.
But when sex has been a major part of your lifestyle, why does it need to stop just because you’re older?
Just as fine wine gets better with age, so does your sex life.
Kevin, 72, says this decade he’s been having some of the leading sex he’s ever had.
“I never thought my sex life would be this good, and it’s because I’m older and wiser now,” he says.
“So I know what I like and focus on doing it.
“Don’t receive me wrong – the sex was good 20 years ago, but I probably just had sex for the sake of it. Now I am more particular and I’m not going to muck around.
“My moment is limited to maybe another ten years and since I can still enjoy good sex, I want to make the most of it.”
We often take for granted older people don’t have thriving sex lives because of our own insecurities around ageing, even though we do it daily.