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Troye Sivan said he's a 'verse' during sex, not a 'top' or 'bottom.' Here's what the terms mean.
Troye Sivan, a singer known for his route "Bloom," recently set unbent rumors that he only enjoys receiving penetration during sex.
"I think in the sort of consciousness of gay people I'm some crazy power bottom or something, which is just not the case, and I just wanted to put that out there," Sivan, a gay guy, said on Emily Ratajkowski's podcast "High Low."
Sivan said that he's a "verse," meaning he enjoys both penetrating a partner and being penetrated during sex.
"Verse," as well as the terms "top" and "bottom" are popular ways to describe sexual preferences in the queer community.
While the terms were originally used to describe the sexual preferences of queer men in the 1970s, more LGBTQ+ people have adopted the terms to converse about what they appreciate in sex.
Lately, top/bottom/verse discourse has grown more evident on TikTok, where gay people have been making videos describing the distinct struggles of each preference.
It's essential to note that each of these categories means something a little other to each person, s
In a sexual context, bottoming is the act of taking a dick (or a dick-shaped object) in your ass. When it comes to gay and bi men, a lot of people seem kind of obsessed with active out who’s a top/giver and who’s a bottom/receiver, but in reality many MSM (men who have sex with men) do both and some undertake neither. In 2021, it’s painfully heteronormative to presume that sexual intercourse has to involve a hole being filled by something cock-shaped.
On one level, bottoming is really no big deal – if you appreciate riding dick, move ahead and go it. But on another, butt-fucking is still cloaked in myth and stigma. “There’s an association that those who bottom are feminine and those who top are masculine,” says Ian Howley, CEO of the health and wellbeing charity LGBT HERO. “And we all know where that stigma comes from: Hello, toxic masculinity.”
Happily, Howley says this reductive presumption is finally dying out as we all become more open-minded. “You now look lots of ‘masculine’ men who love bottoming, including direct men who finally found out just how much pleasure they can obtain from their arse,” he says. Some even like to define themselves as a “p
Ever wanted to know the secrets to becoming a power bottom? Want to know how to look after the bottoms in your life? Curious to provide bottoming a try but not sure how to begin?
We can help you become a improved bottom! Here are some hasty bottoming tips and tricks from ACON’s peer-workshop Booty Basics.
1. Lube
The arse does not produce its own lubrication.
This means that lube is really, really important for any anal play. First, to stop damage to the internal lining of your arse. Second, to make bottoming (and topping!) more pleasurable. And third, to help protect it from infections.
Remember to use water or silicon-based lubes, as oil-based lubes can damage condoms.
2. You
The second law is YOU. This is the one that covers off all the mental and emotional aspects such as making sure you feel safe, making sure there is consent, that you perceive comfortable, that you know your own bottoming limits and desires.
Remember, sex is best for everyone if all the people committed are motivated by trying to maximise everyone’s pleasure safely. You can’t be a good companion and you can’t experience pleasure for yourself if you’re stressed or uncomfortable (bottom or not!).
3. R
Straight people tend to get a minuscule hung up on titles and roles in queer relationships. When it comes to gay sex, many people care for to think rigidly and a small too heteronormatively for their own good: one person is the top (aka the giver or the more dominant partner during sex), and one is the bottom (the receiver or the submissive partner).
It’s sort of a more prying version of the other severely reductive and incredibly problematic question gay people hear all the time: “Who’s the man in the relationship? Who’s the woman?”
Of course, as with anything related to sex, the binary partnership between tops and bottoms is a lot more complicated than that. Sure, there are plenty of queer folks who almost exclusively bottom or superior during sex, but there’s just as many who contemplate themselves versatile or switch (And hey, sometimes, just fond of with straight sex, there’s no penetration at all. Sex is fluid!)
To dig a short-lived deeper, we asked queer men about topping and bottoming, the stereotypes paired with both and how they prefer to use (or not!) the terms in their hold lives.
Let’s begin with some hasty and dirty definitions for tops and bottoms. (And switche
Straight people tend to get a minuscule hung up on titles and roles in queer relationships. When it comes to gay sex, many people care for to think rigidly and a small too heteronormatively for their own good: one person is the top (aka the giver or the more dominant partner during sex), and one is the bottom (the receiver or the submissive partner).
It’s sort of a more prying version of the other severely reductive and incredibly problematic question gay people hear all the time: “Who’s the man in the relationship? Who’s the woman?”
Of course, as with anything related to sex, the binary partnership between tops and bottoms is a lot more complicated than that. Sure, there are plenty of queer folks who almost exclusively bottom or superior during sex, but there’s just as many who contemplate themselves versatile or switch (And hey, sometimes, just fond of with straight sex, there’s no penetration at all. Sex is fluid!)
To dig a short-lived deeper, we asked queer men about topping and bottoming, the stereotypes paired with both and how they prefer to use (or not!) the terms in their hold lives.