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Is Being Gay Feminine?
What would you express if someone asks you to depict a male gay person (Gay)? What is the picture that came to your mind? okay.. stop there! Most of the characteristics you assumed and pictured so easily might be mere assumptions and generalizations.. in short, stereotypes. Surprised!? Unfortunately, it is true. Stereotypes rule our consciousness and thinking to a greater extent than we deliberate. It can be something as basic as the statement- ‘pink is for girls and navy is for boys!’. Homosexual orientation is one of the most misconstrued concepts in today’s world. Numerous stereotypical notions keep pouring in, be it for a male homosexuals (gay) or female homosexuals (lesbian). Permit us take a look at them and try to rethink and restructure our perception.
Most people tend to take for granted that gay men like feminine things starting from clothes, makeup, jewellery, and all other preferences. however, it is not so. it is important to understand that entity a gay does not mean one is necessarily a woman inside or outside. It just means that a male shares more comfortable emotional, quixotic, or sexual relations with other males. There are some men who are ga
Gay Men and Femininity: The Horror
Why are there so many hair stylists who are gay? Why are our homes so often featured in interior blueprint magazines?
Why are we often the tastemakers of the fashion industry?
Why is there an entire décor resale website named “Previously Owned By A Gay Man”?
Is there a extraordinary gay “taste” gene yet to be discovered?
Alan Downs, in his popular guide The Velvet Rage, argues that the reason that queer men are overrepresented as leaders in these industries is that we’ve had to become masters of hiding. As kids our right selves did not get validated, and so we learned to create the appearance of beauty as way to hide our “unbeautiful” selves from the world. “We’re experts in making things and people stare good,” writes Downs.
It’s an interesting theory, and one that would be challenging to prove or disprove. I possess no idea if it’s true. However, I do consider The Velvet Rage is the most important book we have on lgbtq+ men’s development.
What I love about the book are the first several chapters where he validates, with hard-hitting language, the challenges of growing up as a gay male child in a vertical family. You will feel seen and heard in these chapters. They w
Artwork by Christopher Ikonomou (Xe/He)
I experienced homophobia within my first two weeks at UCLA — a surprise considering Chancellor Gene Block deemed UCLA no place for discrimination in his new undergraduate student welcome speech.
I was first belittled for the way I speak — the slang I use, the relative pitch of my voice, and my energetic inflections — by two guys who were talking to one of my roommates. As I joined the conversation, they picked up on my stereotypically feminine voice. They mimicked me, repeating what I said in high-pitched voices while laughing at each other. When my roommate called them out, they got defensive and denied any bigoted intentions.
Later that week, I saw one of the guys in the hallway outside of the floor’s lounge. As I passed by, he asked me how I was doing in a way that I felt was overly cordial considering our previous encounter. I ignored him, and as I turned the corner to my dorm, he said, “Yeah, fuck you!” while someone that was standing with him followed me around the corner and watched me enter my room.
After, I sat at my desk, shocked.
I saw him again while passing through the lounge, in the stairwell, at the other end of the
As the mainstream image of what a gay man is continues to morph into more of a hero and less of a victim, we continue to cast our most handsome, athletic and masculine men in the leading roles of the queer movement. As our rainbow fades to pastel, society now understands that gay men can be just like the rest of mainstream society. Our community has a new cast of lgbtq+ heroes who place our most chiseled, scruffy-jawlined faces forward for everyone to see. From TV stars like Wentworth Miller to athletes like Jason Collins, the world now knows that we can be strong and manly and fit right in with the rest of the boys. But there is a other kind of strength that has always existed within gay identity, although it might not reach in the form of bulging muscles and bass voices.
Unlike his masculine counterpart, the effeminate queer man doesn't have the luxury of hiding behind a butch façade until he is relaxed with coming out of the closet. You know the type. He can learn the choreography to the latest pop anthem more quickly than you can learn the lyrics. In sky-high school he had to produce a beeline for his wagon the minute the bell rang so that he could escape the worn-out name calli