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Gay and nervous about having a roommate. Advice?

CloudStudent1

HI all,
I’m moving out in the fall and into a dorm. The thing is, I’ve only lived as an only youngster. Not to tell I haven’t had sleepovers or overnight summer camps, but I’ve never lived with someone else like a roommate for an extended period of moment. 7 days max, and only when I was younger. The other thing is that I’ve recently come out as Gay. I’m absolutely terrified of having a roommate and/or making them uncomfortable about me being LGBTQ. I really want to do the university experience with a dorm and roommate and such… I just hope they’re not homophobic. Has anyone else out there been in a similar situation? I’ve dealt with homophobia in the past on a smaller scale. I’m really looking forward to my college life but I also totally comprehend that there are people out there that may be uncomfortable with me being LGBTQ.

Do I openly disclose that I’m gay from the start? I feel like I should?

Would love suggestion on this as this is one of the many reasons I didn’t do campus housing as soon as I started college.

Thanks!

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How to navigate association with gay roommate?

Dear The Heterosexual Roommate,

It's important to start off by reminding yourself that your roommate is the same person now that he was when you first met him. The fact that your roommate is gay needn't influence your relationship as roommates or friends. Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual person, Transgender, Queer, Intersex, and Asexual (LGBTQIA+) people live with, and are friends with, people of many different identities. Your roommate's sexual orientation is probably just one of the ways in which he is different from you, and it sounds as though you're an open-minded person who appreciates the differences among friends.

It isn't clear from your question whether your roommate told you himself that he’s gay, or whether you heard about it from others. If he told you himself, he may be open to discussing any questions you might have. However, you won’t understand this unless you have a conversation with him, at which point, he may or may not choose to answer those questions, which is his right. On the other hand, if you learned that your roommate was gay from someone other than your roommate himself and you have questions, it’s still recomme

How to Handle a Gay Roommate

A couple of weeks ago, I saw quite a few tweets love this one:

I would screenshot an actual tweet I saw, but I feel like that might be a little overboard, even if I did blur the person’s name. Hopefully no one thinks I’m homophobic…

I can observe why someone would fear having a gay roommate. He might be scared of being checked out or that his roommate may come on to him. He could be afraid that his roommate will let his lust loose at night and attack him while he’s sleeping. I understand all of the stereotypical reasons why someone would be scared of a male lover roommate.

Allow me to offer reassurance. If you’re the type of guy who who believes that your roommate will check you out or fall in devote with you just because he’s gay, let me tell you one thing: no one will check you out or decline in love with you, because ignorance is more unattractive than a dead platypus covered in human pus.

There’s this weird stereotype that gay people, whether queer or straight, will immediately be attracted to any individual of their same sex. Like, because I’m gay, I’d immediately be attracted to some random g

Gay roommate: what to do?

freshiega1

I’m about to begin my freshman year in college. The college itself notified students of their roommate assignments just about a week ago. When I contacted him, he told me that he was gay. Admittedly, it was unexpected and didn’t just whizz right past my head; I had to stop and think for a second because I’m religious, and when I considered the prospect of such a situation, I realized that it would result in a severe clash of opinions (on several grounds, by assumption).

However, I don’t want to alienate him either, so I told him I was pleasant with rooming with him (even though I was pulling a double-take) and I did want to be his friend. I really do. I don’t want to hurt anyone, but I also assume what I believe.

My parents are religious, as successfully, but also older, foreign, and clearly more stern in their assertion of their views. Since my parents are paying for the next year of my independent life, I couldn’t withhold something enjoy that. I told my dad first, and he’s pretty adamant about transferring roommates, which is probably going to be complicated to do because the dorm I’m stayin