Why are gay men so mean
Do All Gay Men Want To Be Mean Girls?
Stop trying to make fetch happen…
By Jesse Boland
When queer people gaze back on the films of our youth in an attempt to reignite the prodigious pleasure of our inner child, we so seldom see depictions that would arouse us to be the proud adults our childhood selves dreamed we could one day develop . Gay men who were too new at the hour to watch Brian Kinney bareback his way through the existentialism of debaucherous nightlife in Queer as Folk, or pick up on the queer coding of nefarious vers-top villains in animated Disney films, instead grew to idolize the women who led the films of our adolescence. More specifically, the mean girls.
Gay men have always turned to strong women in media as pillars of force in our people. Whether it be Judy Garland, Diana Ross or the Green M&M, these heroines have for their divine influence been vouchsafed into the pantheon of gay icons. For a long moment, this was the closest we could get to seeing ourselves on screen, as gay characters were still considered taboo in mainstream media.
In depictions of teenagers in motion picture and television, many gay men always felt the closest connection to the pret
by Jonathan Hoffman, PhD
According to Derek (not his real name), an extremely fit-looking 30-year-old corporate manager whose interview follows below, Muscle Dysmorphia (MD) is “perhaps the most serious problem facing lgbtq+ men aside from HIV/AIDS.” He is not only passionate regarding sharing his own experiences to help others, but also about raising awareness regarding this significant issue for his community.*
A wonderful deal of information about MD and BDD may be create throughout this website. The obeying interview focuses on MD, as experienced through the eyes of one member of the queer community.
Interview
JH: Why do you think MD is such a major problem in the homosexual community?
D: MD, in my perspective, is the most widespread, under-diagnosed, and misunderstood disease to strike the gay community since AIDS. We are body obsessed. Stride into my gym, or others like it, and you can see the sharp increase in the amount of people taking steroids and other growth hormones. It can affect personal and professional growth and act as a roadblock if you permit it consume you. Because entity gay can be so focused on looks, it’s often difficult to concentrate on other parts of your li
Gay Men and the Skinny Line Between Sass and Sexism
The gay community has an issue with misogyny — guised under the dangerous idea that “gay men can’t be sexist.”
As a gay man, I have never felt prefer I truly fit in — there’s a certain narrative for everyday experience that doesn’t speak to me.
It’s as though I am not important enough for myself to be individually addressed.
As a product of this I often feel a deep instinct of anxiety, not stemming from history of mental illness, but rather human nature — and our imagination’s ability to produce us think we can read other people’s minds and hear all the horrible things they are saying about us.
I grasp that I am not the only gay bloke who thinks this. It is just one of the grueling side effects of being gay, and it is something linear people will never understand.
With that being said, there has always been a deep, personal connection that women almost always feel to share with us. A certain empathy of one person being competent to connect to another, in a mutual verbalization of respect and concern. The way they glance at us and can relate to the feeling of not belonging, or being made to experience as though they are
Photo credit: Shed Mojahid
Article by Hugo Mega (edited by Alyssa Lepage)
I used to think that “coming out” was going to be the hardest part of being gay. That, being free to be me, I could finally end pretending. I would be able to drop the heteronormative disguise that I used to wear, to ensure that I belonged and that I felt safe. Little did I know that in the years that followed, more often than not, I would locate myself butch-ing up, trying to be more masculine than what I naturally was. How did I find myself here again?
Like walking on thin ice, any false action I made, could easily throw me back into a loop of antique patterns that condition my ways of being and behaving without me even noticing it.
Tired of this self-limiting pattern, I decided to confront my opinions around masculinity. Since then I’ve been engaged in deconstructing my conditioning and notions of what it means to be a dude. In the process of deconstructing my beliefs it was difficult to elude one’s own toxic masculinity. I used to believe that being gay absolved me from entity toxic like many straight man can be, but I was wrong.
In this article I will be reflecting on personal experiences and different p